You Are (here)

This week I discovered a blog (and website and mindset) that I just love, called kind over matter. This post, Tell Someone You Are, charmed me (click it, it’ll take you a few seconds to read), and the photo, by pominoz, completely captured my imagination.

For the last few weeks, I’ve been wrestling with questions of identity and direction, struggling with boundaries and demons I thought I’d banished. I’ve felt a little lost, a little swept up by the human tide, and this picture, when I saw it, felt like somebody grabbing my hand. You are. An existential statement to be sure, but also the beginning of something – a definition that I get to finish.

I Am…


under construction

not wrinkle free

thinking big

letting go

pushing the edges

embracing the messy




What are you?


  1. Linda Cassidy Lewis on March 27, 2010 at 1:45 pm

    Lovely poem, lovely thoughts, Judy. And thanks for sharing your humanness. 🙂

  2. Becky on March 27, 2010 at 2:16 pm

    You are… brilliant!
    Ok — I like to play along and this is hard:
    I am: taking some time, embracing some space, gaining momentum, in progress, settling the hell down, learning, hopeful, sometimes scared, sometimes brave, becoming me.

    Loved the link to the site.
    Thank you.

  3. Dani H on March 27, 2010 at 7:59 pm

    Can’t you just be our inspiration, J? Instead of inviting us to participate? I never could turn down a dare and rarely turn down an offer/request from a friend….and I have to be honest, or why bother to do it?……so….
    I am: {right now, this minute} in pain, needy, frightened, alone, lonely, in love, loveless, drowning, surviving, weary…..
    but check back tomorrow…it could all be different by then.

  4. Tall Pajama Man on March 27, 2010 at 8:07 pm

    I am, liking and fearing this all at the same time… it’s too easy to “be” only in the farthest reaches of my soul, while the public me that everyone knows (knows? really?) exists on the surface… Who knows what eruption of emotional magma will rise to the surface by expressing “I am”…
    However, J, I am inspired to take that netless leap, to begin to not only uncover, but to embrace the “I am” that I am… After all, islands are formed by lava flow… maybe there is a new creation just waiting to be formed by the uncovering of the caldera… So, I am:
    figuring me out
    out of shape
    getting older
    running on empty
    looking for the perfect margarita
    such the dreamer
    pursuing life
    becoming thankful
    loving loving
    soon to be, accepting me…

    good start, maybe… will sit in the gate and ponder 🙂

  5. judy on March 27, 2010 at 10:30 pm

    Linda, How sweet. It was a list at first. I had it numbered, but then thought it would look prettier centered. Thus a poem was born. 😉 Please, all the real poets out there, know that I am kidding!

    Becky, beautiful list. I know. Isn’t the site awesome?

    Dani, Fluid. SO much better than static. You know I will check back tomorrow. 😉

    TPM! I’ve missed you. Back in full force, I see. What an awesome list. I will join you in your margarita search. Can I be your first mate?

  6. Caroline on March 28, 2010 at 7:15 am

    Thanks J! Great post! Hmm I am:
    tired, busy, stressed, happy, a work in progress, learning, contented but not content, awake. 🙂

  7. HippieChick on March 28, 2010 at 7:50 am

    I love that you wrote a post about Kind Over Matter! I am a HUGE fan and even teamed up with them for a random act of kindness project last year.

    psssstt…I think you left something off your list. A writer of poignant and beautiful words.

    • judy on March 28, 2010 at 8:11 am

      p.s. Thank you for that last part. BIG, delighted smile.

  8. Marisa Birns on March 28, 2010 at 7:52 am

    Loved your post and the picture is awesome!

    Okay. Let’s see. Today, I am

    in pajamas

    drinking coffee


    tapping into inspiration


    being a friend to myself

    stilling the inner critic

    a work in progress

    a writer in progress

  9. judy on March 28, 2010 at 8:06 am

    Caroline, You forgot awesome hat maker. I need to post that picture here. *puts on to-do list*

    HippieChick, it was your tweet that led me to Kind Over Matter. I love their blogroll too. I think they may be a daily stop for me, now. Kindness over coffee.

    Marisa, Me too! You’re entire list is me right this second. We’re twins. Makes me want to run outside and see if anyone calls me by your name. 😉

  10. croondog on March 28, 2010 at 8:27 am

    Quite thought-provoking! That said, I am:
    bewildered – No, wait. Start Over! :o)

    I am:
    intentionally enigmatic
    hopelessly romantic
    amused and amusing
    a big-time dreamer
    cautiously optimistic, but

  11. BOBBY on March 28, 2010 at 8:28 am

    Does anyone else hear an old Neil Diamond song playing in the background? oh never mind…

    I am hopeful
    I am cynical
    I am a friend
    I am a thorn
    I am deeper than you can imagine
    I am exactly what you see
    I am more than words
    I am less than what is written
    I am a fan of the journey
    I am off to Starbucks on a Sunday morning
    I am ME!

    good golly, the stuff that comes out when I sit and tap the keys, sheeesh! —- “I ammm I said, I ammm I cried…” Oh man, wait till they hear me in the coffee line in a few minutes!

  12. Sam on March 28, 2010 at 9:34 am

    Ok, brain now in gear, here we go…

    I am:

    going through stuff
    not here, I’m over there

    Lovely post BTW!

  13. judy on March 28, 2010 at 9:44 am

    Croondog, Cautiously optimistic but resigned. Wish I could grab your hand and jump off the edge of something. *hug*

    Bobby, I like friend and thorn. You are absolutely you. Your comment made me smile.

    Sam! Hi! Excellent list. I especially like going through stuff (and connecting, because that got you here.) Oh, and writing. Yay!

    • BOBBY on March 28, 2010 at 10:38 am

      I thought the line about going to Starbucks was the real highlight! But I can understand how you liked the other. It was written for you! ha! Have a fun Sunday!

  14. simonscotland on March 29, 2010 at 7:10 am

    I am


    • Dani H on March 31, 2010 at 9:33 pm

      Hey, J ~ Did you notice? Looking at just the first letters of Simon’s comment =

      “I Simon”

      Boy, we have to be on our toes around the clever, blushing Scotsman.

  15. Rex on March 29, 2010 at 5:47 pm

    This post is inspiring. I’ve been loving your blog since I started reading it a few weeks ago. Thank you for writing.

    I am on an adventure.

  16. judy on March 29, 2010 at 6:07 pm

    Simon, Nocturnal. Yes you are. (Lucky for me, or I’d never get to talk to you!)

    Rex, Thank you for commenting! I love this line: “I am on an adventure.” I think that’s what I’m going to start telling everyone when they ask me what’s up. 😉

  17. Estrella Azul on March 30, 2010 at 6:41 am

    Your and the post you linked to have just inspired me to write a poem series 🙂 Thank you!

    Love what you are honey, but you forgot awe-inspiring 😉

  18. judy on March 30, 2010 at 8:18 pm

    Estrella, Really? Yay! I assume the poem series is posted… Can’t wait to see!

  19. Estrella Azul on March 31, 2010 at 6:11 am

    Already have the first one 🙂 It will get posted once the whole series is done.

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