It’s Monday and today’s “Beckoning The Lovely” post begins with a disclaimer. Last week I was more than a little distracted because my father had surgery. (He’ll be fine, don’t worry. He’s not the subject of this post. Mostly because he would hate to be the subject of this post. Or any post. Seriously. Don’t go there; you’ll get me in trouble.)
So, anyway, I was distracted. I knew the next thing on the list of lovely things was “make do with what you have,” and every once in a while, I would think, “I better hurry up and make do, or Monday I’ll be postless.” Still, I kept getting distracted by things like this: Every Wednesday just outside the front door of the VA hospital, there’s a farmers’ market. No kidding. I love that. My dad’s surgery has so far not allowed him to eat anything they sell there, but this week, maybe I’ll smuggle him up some strawberries. (They looked delicious and very healing to me.)
I was also distracted by a commute I’ve grown unaccustomed to (though NPR provides a constant supply of things you might not know – expect a post soon). I was distracted by doctors and nurses and orderlies and volunteers. I was distracted by the view outside the window of my father’s room – an enormous, truly majestic flag, flying at half mast. I was distracted by strange things too, like what to wear to the hospital, what to talk about once I got there, when to leave.
I kept forgetting about this post until today, when I sat down to write it and I couldn’t think of what I’d say, and I decided maybe the best thing was just to start typing. And somewhere along the way it occurred to me that my mom and dad and I have been making do with what we have all week. We’ve made do with less sleep and disrupted schedules. We’ve struggled, sometimes, to say the right thing, or even to say anything at all. None of the words we’ve come up with have been particularly brilliant or inspiring, but we’ve understood, all of us without saying it aloud, that in this unfamiliar territory, we are doing our best.
And the truth is that this lovely thing happens all the time. Life makes unexpected demands and we respond. We improvise. We work with what we have, and when we’re lucky, what we have turns out to be just what we need.
Up next… Make someone’s day.
And now for something completely different… Need an addictive time waster? Silly question, I know. Who doesn’t, right? Try this online word game from indie game designer Bart Bonte. The fun popping sound it makes is weirdly rewarding.