Make A Friend

About a week ago, I posted Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s wonderful video, The Beckoning of Lovely, in which Amy, along with hundreds of people who accepted her You Tube invitation to create something cool together, did just that. In fact they made 12 cool things.

After watching The Beckoning of Lovely, I was inspired. I decided to create the same 12 cool things myself, and share them here on Zebra Sounds every Monday. I posted the first, Make A Grand Entrance, last Monday. Today it’s time for the second… Make A Friend.

Making a friend is harder than you might think. In the video, Amy says “Make a friend,” and everyone turns to hug the people closest to them. In real life, hugging strangers is awkward and maybe even dangerous. Generally speaking, people aren’t ready for spontaneous affection from someone who just happens to be standing near them. In real life, there’s a bit of an art to turning strangers into friends, and it doesn’t come easily to those of us who have a tendency to become tongue-tied around people we don’t know. Especially (and inexplicably) around interesting people we don’t know.

Still, I think my week of trying to make friends has been a success. First, I volunteered to participate in three upcoming literary events. All will involve me meeting strangers, working and playing with them. Making friends. Also, last night, I attended an amazing play in which a friend of mine performed. Afterward I was invited to the cast party. Quelling the bit of panic that the word “party” evokes in me, I went, and instead of parking myself in a corner, I smiled, I hugged some people, I asked questions. I met the director, two of the actors, a cellist, a writer, a librarian married to a concert flutist. I made friends.

I didn’t catch it on film, though, so I have one more success story to share, because sometimes making a friend comes from seizing an opportunity you didn’t know you’d have. My unexpected opportunity happened at the amusement park, in route from The Demon roller coaster to The Vortex. Right there in the middle of everything, surrounded by people half my size, was someone I was very excited to meet!

SpongeBob is adorable, but is it me, or does squidward look like a cartoony lech?

SpongeBob is adorable, but is it me, or does squidward look like a cartoony lech?

Up next… Make Something Pretty. Can’t wait to show you my pretty something next Monday.


And now for something not very different at all… The world needs more hugs.


  1. justakidatheart on August 10, 2009 at 9:40 am

    A director, two actors, a cellist, a writer, a librarian married to a concert flutist AND a Square Sponge in a sharp pair of pants, wearing a tie.

    Not a bad week’s work. You’re better at this than you think.

    The only new person I met this week was a proctologist, and, well, I don’t think of him as a friend, if you know what I mean.

  2. karen from mentor on August 10, 2009 at 10:13 am

    “is it me or does Squidward look like a nervous cartoon-y lech?”

    It’s not just you. :0)

  3. judy on August 10, 2009 at 10:40 am

    Kid, Thank you for the encouragement. And the laugh. You are a pleasure!

    Karen, I tried to crop him out, actually, but his head kept getting in my way. Darn squids.

  4. Estrella Azul on August 10, 2009 at 11:19 am

    You forgot to mention the pink gorilla we all liked on FB 😛 And too bad it’s only for the last week, cause you could mention everyone you’ve met through your blog 🙂
    But except for that, it really is a nice work for only one week 🙂

  5. Tina on August 10, 2009 at 12:02 pm

    You did GREAT at your week’s “assignment”! 🙂
    Love the photo of you w/ SpongeBob(and friend)
    It is VERY hard making new friends for me–at this age, especially. Oftentimes, I have felt a “connection” with a certain returning customer at my job, but how do you get past the client stage and move on to becoming friends?
    I will be catching up with your blog and will enjoy reading the past entries I have missed(too many!) and look forward to next Monday’s “pretty”.

  6. judy on August 10, 2009 at 12:58 pm

    Estrella, True! The Pink Gorilla and I hit it off beautifully! And, you know, I thought of that too. I’ve made so many great friends here. Wish you all lived closer! 😉

    Tina, I know exactly what you mean. For some people it comes really easily, but I’m not one of them. I get very aware of myself when I’m nervous. I think too much self-awareness can get in the way of making friends. At the party, I focused absolutely on whoever I was talking to, and I asked a lot of questions. … but I think it might be easier at a party than at work.

    So glad to “see” you here again! =)

  7. Linda on August 10, 2009 at 4:54 pm

    “is it me or does Squidward look like a nervous cartoon-y lech?”

    It’s the nose.

    And it sounds like you really threw yourself into this make friends thing. I admire your dedication. Actually, I’m in awe. I quiver and quake at making even virtual friends.

  8. BOBBY on August 10, 2009 at 5:40 pm

    hey Judy…..its a PARTY — lets have a PARTY — one big PARTY! Sorry, just thought I would see if the word was really that startling to you!?!

    Yep, it is interesting how making a friend usually involves meeting/speaking/talking/learning about another or, as in the case of the pic, how just having a big smile can pull it all together!

    Nonetheless I think #2 gets crossed off with ease — Onward to #3!

  9. Lake on August 10, 2009 at 5:50 pm

    Wow, J, I love Love LOVE this! Extrovert don’t know courage. Us introverts know what being bold means. Well done and well written as always.

    Linda – I’ll be your virtual friend! We’ll be great!

  10. terrepruitt on August 10, 2009 at 5:52 pm

    How fabulous that you made so many friends over one week. You are doing a great job on the list of twelve things-you are bringing on the lovely.

    Bobby’s comment made me laugh too.

  11. Tim on August 10, 2009 at 5:58 pm

    This is hard for you? We’re going to be really knocked out when you show off something that you do easily!

    We don’t watch Sponge Bob so I don’t know Squidward (his Wikipedia page says he can be cranky), but I’ve got to feel a little bad for him –maybe he just needs some friends. It was nice of you to keep him in the picture 😉

  12. judy on August 10, 2009 at 6:13 pm

    Linda, Well, I was at a party, so, in fairness, my “friend targets” were all right there. Still, I usually arrange myself in ways that resemble furniture to avoid the possibility of having to actually talk. This was a lot more fun. I just have to remember that next time.

    Bobby, I laugh at your repeated use of the p-word. (I’ve had one success. I’m a party-going superhero now.)

    Lake, I’m thinking you and Linda and Tina and I should have a party – break out of our shells and tap into our wild sides once and for all. And, bonus, you can play the guitar so we can all dance.

    Terre, I love “bringing on the lovely!”

    Tim, I think I can “make something pretty” easily… though I don’t have any idea what it is. For some reason, I have absolute faith in myself on this next one. (How’s that for tempting fate?)

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