If I could…

I’d hold your hand always so you’d never feel alone.

I’d reflect your beauty so clearly, so absolutely, you’d look into my eyes
and see your own unquestionable worth.

I’d convince you somehow that it’s better to love, to risk you heart, to be bruised and battered and painfully alive than it is to be safe on the sidelines, undamaged, unaltered, untouched.

I’d show you how you already have all that you need, and the only thing that’s missing is your willingness to shine. I’d show you by having you shine for me, and you’d see it clearly in the dazzled way that I’d stand inside the light of you.

If I could…

I’d show you everything wonderful about you, because it wouldn’t be hard.
Shouldn’t be hard. It’s so fucking clear to me.


  1. Becky on August 7, 2011 at 7:39 pm

    It is a poem.

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 7:57 am

      It’s a list. 🙂

    • Becky on August 8, 2011 at 3:30 pm

      Poem. 🙂

  2. Tall Pajama Man on August 7, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    Like you haven’t done that time and time again?

    If I could, I’d take a page from J’s book, and do the same for all those in my life 😉

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 7:58 am

      Thank you, and I suspect you don’t need any j-pages, TPM.

  3. Rita on August 7, 2011 at 10:03 pm

    You do that everyday…and today I needed to read this. xo

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 7:59 am

      Then I’m glad I went for it. xo

  4. kellybergin on August 7, 2011 at 10:14 pm

    Yes, yes, yes.

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 7:59 am

      Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  5. Michael on August 7, 2011 at 11:03 pm

    Is a poem, isn’t a poem… whatever. It’s poet-ic, whatever the designation. That, and beautiful.

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 8:00 am

      I never said I wasn’t poetic, I just don’t write poems. 😉 Thank you, Michael.

  6. Gina SuuperG Stark on August 8, 2011 at 2:38 am

    as it’s so clear to us how wonderful YOUU are. Peace and gratitude, Gina

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 8:01 am

      The feeling is mutual, Super Girl. xo

  7. C. Fassett on August 8, 2011 at 4:56 am

    Poetry is the language of the soul…this is more than that, it’s the heart’s cry, sung from the depths of every living soul. I feel it, recognize it, my own heart and soul resonating, quickening to the notes, weeping, as it rises up to greet it, and adds my song to yours.

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 8:11 am

      I like that better… soul singing. It can be that. Thank you, Cindy.

  8. Kellie J. Walker (@YourLifeInGear) on August 8, 2011 at 4:58 am

    Beautiful. Just like, j. <3

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 8:01 am

      Thank you, Kellie. <3

  9. Estrella Azul on August 8, 2011 at 5:21 am

    Very poetic, and great sentiment – wish I could do the same for many people in my life.
    You are amazing, j *huge loving hugs*

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 8:04 am

      I wish I could too. This post arose partly out of frustration. I swear I think if we could see ourselves in each other’s eyes, we’d just be stunned, as Michael says, broken open in perfect ways.

  10. Casoly on August 8, 2011 at 6:08 am

    Wonderful. As are you J! xox

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 8:04 am

      Thank you, C. xox

  11. lunaJune on August 8, 2011 at 6:22 am

    you do.. with the way you walk through your day
    you do…with the way you inspire
    you do…with the joy that beams from your smile
    felt across the globe…and right here at home
    do you see… how much you mean….to us?

    love and light
    sharing and inspiring

    you rock

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 8:06 am

      Yes! What you just wrote right back to you. So happy you rock over here at my place. 😉

  12. kaleighsomers on August 8, 2011 at 7:17 am

    You do. Already. Without even being asked.

  13. j on August 8, 2011 at 8:09 am

    Thank you, Kaleigh. I often wish there was a magical combination of words i could wield and everyone would break through their fear and insecurity, and become the big beautiful self they were meant to be. If only that were true.

  14. melissawolfe on August 8, 2011 at 8:28 am

    Just what I needed to read. Reached me in a difficult place. Beautiful and inspiration for how I’d one day like to interact with the world. Thank you thank you for writing this. xx

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 2:46 pm

      Issa, If I could, I would for you. xo

  15. Tricia on August 8, 2011 at 11:04 am

    Somehow, I suspect the shinometer brightens when you are in the room. If I could, I’d surround myself only with people like you.

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 2:50 pm

      I’m such a dork, I thought the shinometer had something to do with my shins. I finally did catch up. Thank you! And right back at you, funny girl.

  16. Lance on August 8, 2011 at 1:06 pm

    If I could I’d have us and our spouses sit down for a glorious dinner filled with laughter and kindness.

    Thanks for making another day for me, J.

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 2:51 pm

      That sounds like an excellent plan. Someday our paths have to cross! (So says, j.)

      Thank you back, Lance.

  17. Pam on August 8, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Lovely. I’m very fond of that image of standing inside the light of another person. xo

    • j on August 8, 2011 at 9:00 pm

      Me too. And I’ve stood in yours. It’s quite wonderfully blinding. xo

  18. Pam on August 8, 2011 at 9:27 pm

    Aw, thanks! *shuffles feet* Your light has sparkles. 🙂

  19. NM (@echo90803) on August 9, 2011 at 1:32 pm

    Judy….Not only can you do this, you do it! You do it with every question you ask. You do it with every heartening reply you write to comments. You do it with the “hard to write” posts. You shine and you teach us how to shine, in small ways that enable us to learn how to shine ourselves. You’ve no idea how influential your writing has been to me; how it’s helped me move along my path. Thank you for sharing your light. Thank you for your encouragement. Thank you for your honesty and your risk-taking. Thank you for your shining example.

    • j on August 9, 2011 at 9:55 pm

      Wow. Thank you so much! I’m working really hard right now on a plan to expand the Love Project in 2012. Part of the planning process involves searching my soul, answering questions like “Why is this important?” and “What is my purpose?” and “How can I be of service?” I have big dreams, and your comment is so reassuring to me.


  20. Joanne Marie Firth on August 9, 2011 at 7:12 pm


    • j on August 9, 2011 at 9:55 pm

      Thank you, Joanne!

  21. Julia Fehrenbacher on August 12, 2011 at 6:51 pm

    Wow, Judy…I wish you could feel how my heart feels right now, after having just read your precious words. So fucking clear–I love every word you wrote–they could have been my own.

    So happy I stopped by.

    Sending you love today,


  22. Julia Fehrenbacher on August 12, 2011 at 7:01 pm

    Hi again…after having just wrote my comment above it occurred to me that it might have sounded a little funny…I don’t love what you wrote because it could have been my own–I just love what you wrote. It totally resonated and it’s what I wish I could do too…hope that’s clearer! 🙂


    • j on August 12, 2011 at 7:28 pm

      Ha! You’re so cute. I knew exactly what you meant and was wildly flattered… and totally mushy. Your words undo me all the time, in the best possible way. Big love right back to you. xo

  23. Julia Fehrenbacher on August 13, 2011 at 10:09 pm

    Okay, now you’ve got me here–flattered, mushy–undone. Seriously, means a lot coming from amazing writer you.

    Deep bows,


    • j on August 14, 2011 at 9:36 am

      The feeling is absolutely mutual. xoxo

  24. Patricia MacDonald on August 15, 2011 at 4:17 am

    I’ve printed out your 3rd ‘stanza’ – if I may call it that – and taped it to my monitor. Are those our two choices? Possibly so… Regardless, I am 63 years old and I want to feel that way again. I am bruised and battered once more; I want to remember it is worth it. Thank you Judy ~ what an awesome month of grand gestures!

    • j on August 15, 2011 at 8:34 am

      Good point, and no, those are absolutely NOT the only two choices. But whenever you put your heart out there, you risk the pain of its breaking. I do believe that the payoff – love – is worth the risk. And it seems like the more I’m willing to risk, the more I live (and love) the moment I’m in and stop worrying about how the next moment might ruin this one, the less that worry comes to fruition. Like magic.

      Thank you back. I’m going to put your comment up on my “Stuff I Love” board. xo

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